We all have them.
You know what I mean. Don’t pretend you don’t.
Them.
** Relatives who manage to get under our skin.
** Co-workers who get away with murder while we dutifully do our jobs and get passed over for raises.
** That friend from ten years ago who stole your boyfriend right out from under your nose.
Them.
Every time you think about them you get annoyed and pissed all over again. All the old feelings get stirred up out of nowhere.
Cases like these (and a bunch of others) are really good reasons to sever those energetic cords of attachment. Why? Because it helps remove that *charge* you feel when thinking about them or the situation. And how nice is it to have that neutralized so you can put that energy toward fun stuff?
Back when I was practicing my cord-cutting skills on some lovely volunteers, it was a common occurrence for them to remark that they had no idea how helpful cutting those cords could be. I think that’s the beauty of the work, though. Theoretically, it makes sense, but until you experience how it works for you – in your own life – you might not see how powerful this healing work can be.
I’ve written about just what cords of attachment are here and here but in a nutshell, a cord of attachment is an energetic structure that allows patterns from the past to continue into the present affecting your daily life.
*** Three good reasons to remove those cords permanently ***
NUMBER ONE: Either energy is flowing OUT of you INTO another – or – flowing INTO you FROM another. Either way, you are being affected on many levels – mentally, emotionally, intuitively … and in ways you might not see.
By removing that energy flow (in whichever way it’s going) you take back what is yours and use it for your own benefit.
Example: Let’s say that Sally and her friend had a big fight over that boyfriend from ten years ago. And while Sally has forgiven her friend for her part in the mess, secretly (in a place no one wants to admit to) Sally is still mad at her. She feels betrayed and angry.
Which way is the energy flowing in this case? Most likely FROM Sally TO her friend and in that cord are all those things Sally doesn’t want to talk about: betrayal, sure. Anger, yep. But what about sadness, and feeling “less than” her because her boyfriend left for her friend? All that and so much more are running around in Sally’s energy field 24/7. Really. It is.
By removing that cord, Sally is able to stop all that yuck from flowing out of her into her friend. She gets to use that energy she was putting out (on an unconscious level) for her own benefit. How nice to get a big WHOOOSH! of your own energy back, eh?
NUMBER 2: You come to an understanding of the dynamics that play(ed) out in the relationship.
When I peer into the cord and the energies it contained and share that, it helps validate for you what was really going on between you and that person. Where was the flow of energy? What did it say about the relationship overall? Lots of light bulb moments show up in this part of the healing work.
NUMBER 3: By cutting the cord of attachment, you’re not cutting the person out of your life. You are just ending the flow of toxic energy between you.
Sometimes, I get asked if cutting the cord means you’ll lose the relationship. Not at all. You get to make that choice now FREE of all the yuck clouding the picture.
Say, for example, you cut the cord with that annoying co-worker. You’ll still see them and can choose to engage with them on any level you want. What’s different, though, is the *charge* between you now is removed.
Maybe it bugged you whenever they left early while you stayed and worked. After removing this cord, it might feel like you’re just watching a movie of someone leaving work early rather than hearing the same old refrain in your head “How come she gets to do whatever she wants and I’m stuck here. My life sucks. I need a new job.” and on and on and on. Much easier to deal with from a distance, I think.
BOTTOM LINE: A cord-cutting won’t make you taller, thinner (damn!) or smarter. But it will help you get rid of some toxic junk floating around in your energy field and allow you to see even more clearly what you want. I think that’s a lovely benefit!
There’s so much more to say about this subject. Look for another installment of “As the Cord Turns” on a future podcast. :)
If you want to read a few testimonials from some of my clients about this healing work, check out the Testimonials page.
And if you’ve had a cord cut and you want to share how it affected your life, I’d love to hear about it! (Doesn’t even have to be from me – lots of practitioners do this work!)
Finally, if you think this might be something you’d like to try, I welcome your email. Big shifts happen through this work all the time. Are you ready?
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Gosh, I just love how your personality shines through in this article (well, all of 'em, but this one especially). I've done the cord cutting and I can speak to how effective it is. It WORKS!
It also works if you're a few months post break-up and still hurting/thinking/obsessing (ahem!) about an ex for some reason or another. It's liberating & frees up that energy and you can (and hopefully will) use that energy for better things.
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Hi Lisa, Well that sounds lovely! I cannot imagine how many of those suckers I have managed to accumulate in 44 years
My first thought was that if I was going to cut cords, it might be hard to identify which ones really need the cutting. Like if you are currently feeling resentment toward someone, that is obvious. But I wonder if you as the intuitive could figure that out better than the person you are doing the work for sometimes if they are too close to something?
Allow me to share my experiences
. When I do readings to people, I can see something like a energetic stamp on them, it's just clearly visible who's connected to them. Yet, at the same time, I rarely see any connections in my own case, so I need to ask others to help me with my attachments, while I can help others with their attachments.
Hi Nathan! How cool that you can see the "energetic stamp" on others. And it's very, very common for us to miss our own blind spots even as we can see them so very clearly for others. That's why I have practitioners I trust to help me with my work.
Hey Julie – here's my thought: as you talk with the person about who might be a candidate for cord cutting, the one that seems to bring the most "charge" is often the one that is appropriate for that work at that time. Parents are very common candidates, ex-spouses/partners, co-workers – all good places to start. If there are several people who might be good choices, I used my pendulum to check and see who is appropriate for that session. As I have learned (and you can probably attest) sometimes you just "trust what you get" when you do this and whomever feels most appropriate is the one to do.
I'm putting together a course for the fall on different healing modalities showing not only how they work (as in listening in on a session with someone) but teaching you how to do it as well. Might be something of interest to you!
Definitely! I'll stay tuned
Thanks for the reminder of the cord cutting and its benefits. Have a little cutting of my own to do right now.
Hi Lisa,
You made some really good points here on cord cutting. Do you actually see the energetic cords in others or do you sense it?
Either way you reminded me that I need to cut some cords.
Hi Justin, thanks for your comment. For me, it's more of a "knowing and feeling" where it's located. I'm not hugely clairvoyant so I don't see it often (even in my mind's eye) but I just sort of know where it is and what's going on there. When I tune in, it becomes very real and very clear to me.
Hi Lisa,
You got me all excited about this awhile back and I've now got the cord cutting bible, lol. But wow. A lot to it! I thought I'd be able to get rid of all these cords in no time flat. Think again, huh.
Anyway, it gives me new appreciation for what you do, and I wanted to thank you too for all the great info. I'd never heard of cord cutting before but it seems like something we can all benefit from — big time.
Patti, I can attest that the book is packed with info and whatnot and IMO not terribly user friendly in putting it all together. I created a checklist of steps that I use ALL THE TIME when doing this work and it's made things a lot easier. I'll email it to you – perhaps it will simplify things a good deal.
As I mentioned above, I'm working on course planned for fall on how to do this healing modality as well as a few others in a group (online) setting where we can all work together in learning these things. I'd love to have you join in!
Thanks for your nice comment!
I dont know whether its a coincidence that i stumbled across this post just when i cut the chord…for three years I kept on receiving those toxic fumes that made me miserable. I thought of cutting the chord before but was stuck in the dilemma of how i would bear the pain. Finally, i did it. Yes, for a moment it hurt a lot, like excruciating pain but it was soon gone and I breathed like a liberated soul, at peace finally. My advice is now just to never bother about the fear of outcomes or how you would feel the consequences. Life is all about moving on!